In order to get pregnant, you need to have sex at the right time during your cycle. You need to know when you will be ovulating so you can make sure the sperm will be there to meet the egg. Many women have the typical 28 day cycle. Unfortunately, calculations based on this assumption could have you missing your fertile period if you are not part of the norm. You will need to calculate your personal cycle length.
Calculating the Length Of Your Cycle
You will need to keep track of when your period starts each month. Do not assume. Tracking the date for three or four months will give you the best estimate of when you ovulate. The length of your cycle is not the number of days you bleed during your period. Once you have the dates, you will need to count the number of days between the two dates on a calendar. "Day One" will be the day you start bleeding and the final day, of your cycle, will be the day before your period started the next month. The resulting number is usually between 21 and 35 days. If you have numbers that consistently fall outside of this range, you really need to discuss the issue with your doctor. If you have recorded the start dates for several months, you will want to repeat the calculation to make sure your cycle is normally the same length each month. Occasionally, your cycle length can be thrown off by life issues like stress, starting or stopping medications, illness and other issues.
Calculating When You Ovulate
Unless you have medical issues that affect your ovulation, like PCOS or a luteal phase defect, you should be able to figure out when you will ovulate, based on when your next period should start. Women typically ovulate 14 days before their period starts. Time to get your calendar out again and do the counting. Start at the day your period should start, and count backwards 14 days. That should be when you will ovulate. You can also use an ovulation calendar to give you a range of potential fertile days for the coming months. All you need to do is plug in your cycle length and the rest is done for you.
Your Fertile Days
Now that you know when you should ovulate, you need to plan the babymaking dates. With optimal sperm health and friendly cervical mucus, sperm is actually quite hardy. After ejaculation, you may find that there could be sperm waiting for the egg five days after ejaculation. With that in mind, to hedge your bets for a successful fertilization, you will want to start having sex 3 days before you are due to ovulate. If your partner has no know sperm issues, like low sperm count, you should plan to have sex every day up to the day you ovulate. Keep in mind, even if you had timed everything perfectly, only about 20% of couples get pregnant during the first month of trying. If you have been trying for a year with no success, and are under 35, you should consider visiting your doctor. If you are 35 or over, and haven't gotten pregnant after 6 months, a visit to your doctor is in order.