If you’re having trouble getting pregnant, then you know what frustration feels like. That monthly cycle of anticipation and disappointment can get to anyone. It’s one of the most frustrating parts about trying to conceive, actually.

What seems to make matters worse is that everyone wants to tell you what to do. Great aunt Matilda, who you would never talk to about sex even if your life depended on it, is telling you what position you should do it in if you want to conceive.

Even worse than that, you try it. After all, now that it’s out there, what do you have to lose?

Trying to conceive is about choices. You need to decide a few specific things about your fertility journey. Among them:

  • Who will accompany me on this journey? Struggling to conceive is no fun alone. Yet, it isn’t exactly a trip meant for everyone. Be careful about who you let onto your fertility bus. At the same time, make sure that your partner is coming along for the ride, because going through it alone will only add to your frustration.
  • Am I willing to explore medical options? Many people who struggle with fertility are willing to try a fertility drug like Clomid, but not much else. Others won’t even do that, because they feel like they don’t want to interfere in nature. Some folks object to fertility medicine on religious grounds, and you need to decide whether or not that applies to you.
  • Are there natural options to consider? More and more folks are looking into herbal, homeopathic and therapeutic aids to getting pregnant. It isn’t always about fertility drugs and IVF. Some folks have had success while taking fertility supplements, for example.
  • How much can I spend? If you’re exploring more aggressive fertility treatments like IVF, you’re looking at some serious costs. You need to figure out what you’re willing to spend on your fertility journey.

No two couples will answer each of these questions exactly alike. The way that you answer them, however, will help to determine what direction you take in your attempts to get pregnant.