Infertility and Jealousy
When you’re having trouble trying to conceive, you can be flooded with emotion. Each month, you’re full of hope, followed by anxiety, followed by disappointment, followed by depression. Each month, you get to start this emotional whirlwind back up, as it blows through your mind and spirit.
There are plenty of other emotions that can creep up too, if you’re not careful. One of the most common, and one of the most harmful, is that of jealousy.
If you’ve ever looked at another woman with a child and hated her because you’re having trouble getting pregnant, that’s not a healthy thing. Most of the time, it probably doesn’t go that far. You’re more likely to think, “this is unfair. Why does *she* get to be pregnant and I don’t?”
In some ways, this jealousy can be connected to self-esteem. You may feel like you’re somehow defective when you’re having trouble getting pregnant. You may feel like you’re not as good as someone else, or that you’ve done something bad and that God is punishing you by not allowing you to have children.
You need to recognize this green-eyed monster for what it is. Feelings of jealousy are common and normal. How you handle those feelings, though, says a lot about you as a person.
It’s tempting to take those feelings of jealousy and allow them to turn to bitterness. If you do, however, you’re just causing yourself even more problems. The fact of the matter is that stress, to a large degree, can affect your fertility. You can be hurting your chance of getting pregnant just by being upset that you’re not pregnant.
The key is to focus on you, and on what you and your partner need to do in order to become pregnant. Identify the things that may be causing fertility problems. If necessary, make some lifestyle changes to fix those causes. If it’s more likely to be a medical issue, talk to your health care provider.
Turn that energy – the negative energy that comes from being jealous – into dedicated action. Use your energy to accomplish your goal, not to run down someone else who has something you want.
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I have been trying to conceive for 2 and 1/2 years now and still no success. I have PCOS, I am insulin resistant, and I am overweight. I have been wanting to get pregnant so bad but I am having problems. I look around me and see women in my family and friends that I have gone to school with getting pregnant left and right. For crying out loud my sister’s dog just had puppies and I was jealous. That is sad!!! I have become very depressed because of it. I try not to think like that but sometimes it is so hard. And I am not making matters any better for me because I smoke. If anyone has any suggestions about anything that I can do to help me conceive. I don’t have insurance or a lot of money to go to the docter. I don’t know what to do. The only thing I know is that I want a baby.