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How Frequently Should I Have Sex If I Am Trying To Get Pregnant?

More the merrier!

The simple rules of probability apply to baby making too. It is a myth to think you should have less sex in order to conceive. All the evidence shows that the more you have sex, the better your chances of getting pregnant. With the way our lives are getting cramped and fast paced, it is not surprising that infertility experts regularly observe how many people are having problems trying to get pregnant because they are simply not having sex often enough, especially during the woman’s most fertile few days of her cycle – ovulation.

Sex during ovulation

To capitalize on your chances of getting pregnant you must first understand ovulation and why it is important for conception. It is the most fertile period in your cycle when the egg or ovum is released into the uterus. During this fertile period you need to make love every couple of days. By doing this you can almost double your chances of getting pregnant. Remember that the sperm can live for anywhere from 48-72 hours within the woman’s reproductive system depending on the how favorable the cervical environment is. Sexual intercourse every 2-3 days, around or at the time of ovulation, should be adequate to achieve pregnancy.


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Abstinence for baby making

There is a common practice where many couples believe they have to save the man’s ejaculate until the exact moment of ovulation. You don’t really have to do that. In fact, having sex often ensures that the sperm in a man’s ejaculate is as healthy as it can be. Storing it up can decrease its motility, so don’t be tempted to put off intercourse until you ovulate, and don’t abstain for more than seven days in a row. Read our article on whether abstinence from sex can help to improve the sperm count for related information on this topic.

Ignore all the myths that the man will ‘run out’ of sperm if you have sex too often. On the contrary, some men have a drop in their sperm count if they don’t ejaculate regularly. It is true that the density of sperm in each ejaculate diminishes with frequent orgasms. But remember that it takes only one healthy sperm to make it to the woman’s Fallopian tubes during the time of ovulation. So density is less important than quality and motility here.

This is not to say that you should have sex every day during or around ovulation when attempting pregnancy. Every second day during the middle of the cycle is ordinarily enough. And while you are being familiar with your cycle, it’s equally important that you try to relax and enjoy sex. The more relaxed you are, the better your chances of conceiving. So have sex not just for the baby but for yourselves too.

Day or night!

Some people believe that day is a better time for baby making sex because the sperm count is higher then as compared to nights. While some studies claim that a man’s sperm count may be higher in the morning, the differences are minimal. This slight difference in the sperm count is inconsequential is affecting your chances of getting pregnant. Recent research shows that the best time of the day for sex if you wanted to get pregnant was in the early evening between 5 and 7 pm, when sperm counts are up to 35% higher, sperm are livelier, and women are more likely to ovulate. Keep in mind that far more important than the time of day is the time of the woman’s cycle.

Some other tips for boosting your chances.

It would also help to boost your chances of getting pregnant if you avoid douching prior to intercourse. Douching can disrupt the natural environment of the vagina and cervix, making it difficult for sperm to migrate. If you need a vaginal lubricant, be sure to carefully choose. Many lubricants on the market today say that they are sperm friendly but unfortunately, that just is not the case. There is one lubricant on the market, Pre~Seed, which has the scientific studies behind it which prove it is sperm friendly. It may also help if you work on the positioning of sex for baby making while figuring out the timing. Some recommended positions for getting pregnant include man-on-top or rear-entry. These positions help to pool the sperm as close to the cervix and increase your odds of getting pregnant.


Last modified: February 10, 2013


The information provided here should not be considered medical advice. It is based on the average experience of women trying to conceive and may not be what you may be experiencing. It's not meant to be a replacement for any advice you may receive from your doctor. If you have any concerns about your cycle or our ability to get pregnant, we advise you to contact your doctor.